Is Less Really More?
We hear that phrase thrown around casually, "Less is more!" What does that really mean? Is it really true that less is more? I am not sure I am quite there yet, but I am willing to concede it just might be true from how it has played out in my life. I talk a lot. I mean A LOT!!! I am an external processor. I organize my thoughts by saying them out loud. Great for me and not so great for others. I am also a doer. I step up and I do, do, do. Often, its overkill in how much I do
When They Don't Want Forgiveness
When someone doesn't want forgiveness, are you off the hook? Is it okay to harbor resentment, anger, and pain if the person who hurt you couldn't care less? What if they believe their actions were justified, so if you were offended, well, that's your problem? Forgiveness is messy. One of the messiest parts of forgiveness is when the person who hurt us has no interest in forgiveness or repairing the relationship. Why is it when we are clearly in pain the person who caused us p
When Love Isn't Just a Feeling
Maybe it was my dreamy-eyed youth at play or maybe it was a skewed misconception portrayed by culture, but I was well into my adulthood before I realized I didn't have to FEEL love in order TO love. I also didn't need to feel loved in order to choose to love. Perhaps you learned this way before me, but when I look around our world, I wonder if all of us could use a refresher course. We know our culture has turned love into this ooey-gooey, melt-your-heart, tingly from your he
One Small Shift, One Giant Transformation
There are moments I look back on, astounded at how insignificant they seemed in the moment and how transformational they are in the present. One such shift started with a simple question. It was a time in my life where all I could think about was what my life was lacking. I was more likely to list off all the ways my life wasn't working than to engage in optimistic conversation. I was a very glass half-empty kind of gal. Complaining was the name of my game and people were get
A New Reality, Step 3: Get Moving
The biggest reason most of us stay stuck in current realities that no longer serve us is we don't create movement. Movement towards something doesn't just magically happen. I seem to remember way back in my brain somewhere that a physicist said, "An object at rest tends to stay at rest and and an object in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted upon by an outside force." Ah, yes, good old Isaac Newton knew what he was talking about and it doesn't just apply to physical o
